By Kieran Clark
Golf is a beguiling game of inconsistencies and contradictions, where both good and bad shots can have the same result, but perhaps the most striking example of that nature is that this most individualistic of sports also surpasses any other when it comes to companionship.
When you’re on a course with another golfer, it’s a shared experience. You are navigating the unfortunate bounce, rare moments of glory, and the elements, together, akin to a pair of mountaineers climbing a peak, or fishermen waiting patiently on the riverbank.
Legendary author P.G. Wodehouse famously stated, “To find a man’s true character, play golf with him.”
Everyone is different, and all golfers will have horror stories of being paired with someone whose behavior cast a shadow over the round, but there are key traits which stand out and make even the least successful days a rewarding one.
A realization for all is becoming aware that your actions and attitude will directly impact the enjoyment of those around you. Taking stock of that and being conscious of others is the first vital step to becoming the perfect playing partner.
Here are some long-standing observations of what is required to be the best possible partner on the golf course.
Even Temper
Golfer Breaking His Clubs — Image by © Scott Barrow/Corbis
There’s nothing worse than putting up with a temperamental personality constantly throwing clubs and blaming everyone and everything for their poor play.
There is nothing wrong with expressing frustration, or even uttering the odd swear word, after hitting a bad shot. However, when that becomes the prevailing personality of the round, there is a problem.
Hit a bad shot, curse yourself, and move on, don’t let it dwell, as that will ruin the leisure time of your playing partners. The pathologically angry golfer is the one we should be determined to avoid.
Good Humour
Even the greatest golfers in history have been made to look foolish during a round, never mind the rest of us, who just aren’t very good. The overwhelming majority of players will routinely make stupid mistakes and hit unforgivably bad shots – but it doesn’t mean anything, it doesn’t really matter.
Sharing the undoubted ridiculousness golf provides can be a joy with the right person, who will relish in the good moments, but also laugh when things go wrong. Being able to poke fun at that shank, duffed chip, or missed putt is another key step to be the perfect playing partner.
Consequently, there’s a lot of humor to my rounds.
Pace of Play
There are three categories of pace on the course – slow, fast, relaxed. Waiting on every hole, is frustrating, but one shouldn’t feel rushed either.
The ideal playing partner plays to a reasonable pace, but leaves room for conversation and the enjoyment of the surroundings.
A round of golf should marinate.
Doesn’t Just Talk About Themselves
While there is nothing wrong with mentioning your new set of clubs, or that new swing thought from the range, it is important to show an equal interest in your playing companions and learn their unique stories. In these days of social media driven self-absorption, it’s nice to take a step back from that environment and the golf course can be the ideal social media free sanctuary.
Have a real conversation and don’t be one of those tiresome know-it-alls, who believes they have all the answers!
Understand Basic Rules & Etiquette
Most golfers can’t be expected to memorize the Rules of Golf, but some basics are a necessity. Penalty drops and relief options are helpful, plus a little bit of rules knowledge will keep the round moving and enjoyable.
Additionally, the simplest etiquette is essential. You would be amazed by some of the behavior I have seen on the links at St Andrews. Do not talk during someone’s swing and know where to place your bag off the green before heading to the next tee!
Ability to Add Up Scores Correctly
If you’re playing for a score, then please work on the ability to add them up!
It becomes somewhat tiring when waiting at the edge of the green while your playing companion is trying to reconstruct his multitude of shots on the completed hole. It’s something that can stall the progressive momentum of a round – especially if it happens 18 times.
Keep track of what you’ve scored and let’s keep going!
Be Mindful of Others
Ultimately, the key for everyone is understanding that your behavior can make or break the experience for your playing partners. Have the awareness to respect their round, be mindful of them to be the best possible companion.
Walking off the final green, doff your cap, look your partner in the eye and firmly shake his, or her hand. Ultimately, your performance as a fellow golfer is much more important than your final score.
When played with the correct perspective – a shared round of golf can be uniquely rewarding.
